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Flirting Tip 6: Keep Eye Contact: Obviously keeping your eyes on the other person shows them that you’re interested and a gives a sense of intimacy. Don’t stare, but at some point during the conversation, especially if they laugh or smile, keep eye contact a second longer to show them how much you’re into them. It’s not only intimate but it makes most people’s heart flutter.

Tip 7) Non-Intrusive Touching: This is done further into the conversation and can be a simple gesture like putting your hand lightly on his or her hand for a moment. You could also lightly touch the other persons back as you’re walking together. Keep in mind that you should only do this one or two times. If they feel uncomfortable or pull away, don’t do it again and depending on their reaction you may want to move on.

Tip 8) Checking Him/Her Out: Though this can be done at any stage but it’s best done a little later on so as to remind the person that you’re flirting with how much you are into them. Simply take a second and check them out, you can even have a nice little mischievous smile on your face. Be careful not to overdo it. Twice is more than enough, once at the start and towards the end.

Essential 9: Wrap it up. If you want to wrap it up or leave with them but it’s just taking too long, you can always try out the old “hey, I have to go but I had a great time, and I’m glad I met you” if they ask where you’re going, say you’re going home and see what they say. At this point they may ask to come with you or for your phone number. If they want you to stay, say you’d love to but would they like to grab a coffee with you instead. This gives the two of you some time alone.

Flirting Tip 10: Don’t Kill the Mood: Don’t overdo it! Leave when you’re at the top of your game. Leaving when you’re having the most fun with the other person will leave them wanting more. Don’t just leave abruptly, but as soon as you reach that high, stick around just a little while longer as it sets in, then before that high starts to fade, make your exists and leave them wanting more.

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Questions are the most amazingly simple thing that we can come up with when we want to learn about someone else.

Dale Carnegie in his best-selling book, “How to win friends and influence people” talks about the simple power of asking questions to show that we are interested in someone else.

You’ve probably been to a party and you’ve been the one asking the questions and doing most of the listening? If you have you will probably agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting – funny that! You probably did less that 20% of the talking but you got 100% of the credit!

If you ‘re a guy and ask a lady some great questions, you will often find yourself leap-frogging to final base, saving a lot of time and energy trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and really listening to what a person says is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do with anyone.

If you are a lady and want to stroke a guy’s ego and make him feel good then ask lots of interesting questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!

Despite the ego-stroking that can happen, if you ask and listen there is also a genuine side to the picture as well. Because people who’re genuinely interested in someone else, are the people who are usually popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.

Here’s 21 questions to ask to get conversation moving along. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions – which are always better.

Here’s 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl

1. If you’re a waiter and a customer was super rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or think about oing this?

2. What was your favourite cartoon character as a kid and why did you enjoy them?

3. If you had the chance to choose 5 people to invite to dinner – real of fictional – who would you invite and why?

4. If in an instant you could become an invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?

5. If someone were to make a comedy show about part of your life, which part would they script and what would be found in the script?

6, What was your favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them?

7. What do you regret the most in your life?

8. What’s the most hilarious experience you have had in your whole entire life?

9. Have you ever gone on a date with a person who is so way smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?

10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?

11. What was the worst lie you have ever told in your life? Did you get caught out?

12. If you were suddenly turned into a woman for a day, how would you spend that day?

13. When you meet someone for the first time and you do not like them what would you normally do?

14. What’s the highest priority for you when considering a partner – good looks, intelligence, sense of humour, or something else?

Time to get a little more personal!

15. Have you ever been caught naked in a public place – if so what were you doing?

16. What’s the difference between sex and making love and which do you prefer?

17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?

18. What turns you off the most sexually?

19. Were you ever unfaithful with your partner? If so did they find out and if so what did they do?

20. Has anyone ever caught you touching yourself sexually? If they did what did you do?

21. Have you ever been to an orgy with more than two other people? If so did you have sex or just watch?

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In general, the whole concept of the dating game is quite a challenge for most guys, basically because the fact remains that women are complex characters that men find hard to please. With this regard, this article came into being with the hope of helping guys ease out their concerns and perplexities about dating.

Women are deemed as mysterious. And this notion seems to be so intent on staying intact since no one is in authority to disclose what the mysteries are all about.

Anyways, these dating tips for guys will assist you in getting the woman of your choice. Here, you will be taught the proper way to dress and to act during a date, among others.

If you make it right, you will be on your way to a successful relationship.

Whatever advises you will come across on this article, rest assured you will merit yourself good favors no matter what situation you are in right now. Whether you are brokenhearted, never dated before or have been into it for years, these dating tips will do well for you.

Rule of thumb when you go out on a date: always look presentable and be at your best. Wear decent and appropriate clothing and shoes. Remember, women check out a guy’s shoes. Get a set of wardrobe that suits you perfectly, the kind that complements you. This includes the right shade and cut.

Stay Clean and Look Fresh

Never forget that personal hygiene is vital. It is important that you look clean and fresh all the time. Have your hair cut if necessary. If you want, you can always ask for professional help to help you get the style that you want. If you have long hair, then maybe it is about time you allow a pair of scissors to do wonders with it and give it a new look, or if you have a bald head, nothing beats the luster after a professional shave.

Professionals are readily available to assist you. Again, hygiene is overly important. Make it part of your daily routine to take a shower daily. Stay fresh each and every day.

Courageous And Bold

Be informed. It is wise to read book on manners and anything about being courteous and chivalric in order to fish out more information that will be of great help. Bear in mind that women are most grateful when they are treated with respect. Hence, do just that. Treat her like a real gentleman does. Do not just let her know but see to it that she feels special around you. Also, know something about clothes, bags, or any woman stuff so you will have something to talk about just in case you find out you have nothing in common.

Little information helps. You do not have to master everything.

Moreover, be aware of what’s going on around you. Be up to date with current events as well so you will have a wider scope of topics to talk about. This additional knowledge will make you smarter.

Pay Attention to Time

Every time you go out on a date, always be on time. Tardiness is a big turn off. Also, women have the tendency to think of the worst. When you are late, many things may run on her pretty head. She may think you are not really interested and excited on going out with her, or may think of you as unreliable.

On the other hand, being too early has its own pitfall too. If you do so specifically if you are picking her at her place, she may not be finished preparing yet or you may find her half-dressed for your date. Surely, you do not want to put pressure on her to rush on her clothes and make-up, do you?

Never forget to pay her a compliment the moment you see her. Keep it flowing all through your entire date. Women love to be complimented to make them feel beautiful and sexy. So do not be too dramatic and go overboard to the point of irritating your date or making her feel uncomfortable. Be sincere.

Have a two-way conversation. Do not steal all the limelight with the intention of impressing her. Listen to her story as well. You ask questions in order for you to know her more.

To impress a girl, you do not have to talk endlessly about you. Rather, learn to talk and listen at the same time. You have to hear her side you know. Be a listener as well and be a good one.

Money Matters

Nowadays, it is obvious how women have changed so much. They even make an issue on who pays the bill when out on a date. Women are very independent now and wants to take care of most things including date bills. Naturally, guys will not allow this for they are used to the notion that guys should pay the expenditure when dating. Well, if your date insists that she wants to pay, fine. Go along with it but you have to pay at least half of the bill.

Kissing her goodnight is another issue specifically on the first date. Take note that there are women who do not like to be kissed after the date, while there are also those who feel disappointed when the guy does not.

To find out if she wants to be kissed or not, read her gestures. Or, wait if she will initiate.

If you do like the girl and wants to see her again, get her number. However, do not lead her on to believe that you will call her if you have no intentions of seeing or hearing from her again. If you are not truly interested for another date, thank her for a wonderful time, bid her farewell and walk on. On the contrary, if you want to date her again, let her know.

Satisfactory and successful dating experience will be yours if you do it well enough. Take heed from these advices and you are granting yourself probable exciting moments that can be yours to cherish.

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Some pick up lines are boring and rude.

When have you heard some of the cheesiest of pick up lines like the following…

“Your name must be Gillette, because you’re the best a man can get.”

Using a line like these will get you nowhere with a woman fast, chances are she will not even speak to you.

Because pick of lines such as these, which are bad get too much attention, while encouraging others to consider that all pick up lines are worthless.

However, this is not correct.

A good pick up line will ACTUALLY help you pick up a woman.

Understand: The whole point of using a pick up line is to get a conversation started.

That’s it.

Once you get the girl talking with you, then you can work your magic and do what you need to do to get the date, the phone number, or the make-out.

Remember, if you do not begin a conversation, you cannot do much more.

Because you shouldn’t just be talking to a girl. You should be ENGAGING the girl. Pulling her into a conversation with you is the only sure-fire way to further your agenda.

And guess what? A good pick up line will do that!

But don’t be fooled into thinking you can get away with a line like:

“Don’t I know you from somewhere?”

This is lame pick up line and women know it, this is not a clever pick up line and makes you look bad.

Other bad pick up lines include, asking for directions and complimenting her on her clothing.

Why?

Because these things do not ENGAGE the girl. Once she responds, there is nothing to keep her in the conversation.

Good pick up lines avoid “yes and no” answers. They are about getting the girl to think about her response, evoking an emotional reaction, and making her WANT to continue to communicate with you.

How do you engage a woman in conversation?

The easiest way is to ask her opinion about something. Every woman has strong opinions, and they aren’t afraid to share them! (Particularly when they come to relationships!)

So to give you an example, you could say something like: “Hey, can I get your opinion on something real quick? Do you think it’s weird for a woman to try and get pregnant because she wants her baby to be born under a certain astrological sign? I really want to hear a woman’s perspective on this.”

Once you engage her in the conversation you may follow up with a tale of some woman who wants to be sure she and her children are astrologically compatible, to make life a bit more enjoyable as life moves along.

This leads to all kinds of different topics to talk about, things like:

1. Astrology 2. Children 3. Pregnancy 4. Marriage 5. Relationships

The numerous ideas for conversations are unlimited. Here you will find a few of my favorite follow-ups.

“Are you a believer in astrology?” (This can begin conversations about destiny and fate.)

“Are you fond of children? You seem very nurturing.”

A good pick up line design draws a woman into an interestingly deep conversation, while allowing you the opportunity of getting to know one another better and becoming familiar with one another.

This is how you begin conversations.

From that point, it should be rather easy to ask her for a telephone number and possibly set up a first date.

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Body language is non-verbal communication, but is used along with verbal communication. It expresses our emotions, conveys our attitudes, demonstrates our personality traits and supports out verbal communications. Everyone uses this whenever we communicate with each other.

In any culture there are different non-verbal behaviors which are used, such as the thumbs up to indicate “way to go” or “good job”. And, you will find that the six primary emotions of happiness, surprise, sadness, fear, anger, and disgust will be common throughout all of the different cultures. These six come from our own instincts and cannot be taught to us, because they naturally appear when we communicate with others. When having a conversation other individuals you will have an expression that will come from your subconscious. Because it comes from your subconscious, others will be able to tell a great deal about you.

Fear is a natural human emotion and serves a purpose related to our safety and security. But let us imagine a person who has witnessed a serious auto mobile accident, but rather than running to the aid of the injured; they run franticly in the opposite direction. This frantic running away is body expression that certainly infers some kind of fear. Specifically what that fears might be we cannot know without talking to the person. But it is obvious that the fear has nothing to do with immediate safety. Through this example you should be able to see how we can read anothers personality through the lens of his body language.

There is one experiment that you could try at home – see how much information people give you about themselves through their body communication. When you are talking with someone, you should observe their body language as they talk. After a couple of minute’s observation, close your eyes and continually listen to them. You will not be able to see their hands moving, facial expressions, or other bodily movements. You will, however, notice how much information is not available to you because your eyes are closed. This process becomes difficult to read and understand without actually seeing the person’s body expression accompanying them speaking.

One concrete way to learn how to read someone’s body language is to observe them and get to know how they act. You should remember that all individuals have six common types of instinctual body language. But, these do vary in degree of expression. There are non-verbal communications which will also be common among certain cultures, societies and families. Due to this, two different people can have very similar behaviors which will be expressed through similar types of body language. If you know your own body language, then you will find it easier to read similar ones in others, and therefore will provide you with an insight into another people’s personalities.

As you progress and continue to learn your own body language and how it relates to the behaviors of your sub consciousness, you will need to be conscious of the fact that you don’t overdo this. After some time, you will recognise the only goal will be to match your thoughts with your own body language. In this process, you are not concerned about judging yourself, but want to learn how to read your own body language so that you will later be able to read the body language of others. After, you will be able to use the information you have gained for your own understanding.

Once you recognize some of your own body language movements and what they mean, you will be able to begin to read other people with more accuracy. When you are having a conversation with someone, you will be able to identify different things such as mixed messages. These mixed messages will be identified when an individual says one thing, yet their body communications something else.

A good example is when someone lies to you. They tell you, “I didn’t do it!”, but the tone of voice, the looking away, and the slight nervousness lets you know that something is not quite right in what they are telling you. This conflict between verbal language and body language could signal deception. Mixed messages are most certainly related to insincerity and point to that person as having something to hide.

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You can’t deny it – online dating is a great way to meet women, and everyone knows it. Sites like eHarmony and Match.com are advertising everywhere in the mainstream.

However, if you’re already sold on paying a monthly fee to be a part of these sites, you’re totally missing out on the single best dating site around – and more importantly, it’s free!

The site I’m referring to is none other than Craig’s List!

Craig’s List was started by Craig Newmark in 1995 to better help people connect through events around San Francisco. Since that time, this simple site has exploded into a national community.

Craig’s List is fundamentally a classified ad site. It offers a variety of services, everything from finding people places to live, to finding them jobs, buying and selling stuff, and even finding dates – exactly like the classified section in your local newspaper.

Anyone who’s ever visited Craig’s List may be skeptical about finding quality women on such a “low rent” looking website. But if you’re judging a book by its cover, you’re really missing out.

Here are the advantages to using Craig’s List for dating purposes:

1. Large Userbase

Craig’s List gets millions and millions of pageviews a day. This means that your chances of meeting a fantastic woman on this site is exponentially increased.

2. Local Targeting

Craig’s List is made up of different sections for local areas. This gives you the ability to meet local single women quite easily.

3. It’s Free!

Other dating websites require a paid subscription for using their services, but not Craig’s List. Craig’s List is free, and that means lots of women are going to use it rather than paying for a typical dating website. This translates to more chances for you to meet the perfect girl!

4. Dedicated Community

Craig’s List is more than a simple classified website. It is a big online community with daily regular visitors. It has regular activity on its message boards, which means the site is updated constantly. They also have members who moderate the website to ensure quality. All this contributes to a vibrant community that you can become a part of – something most dating sites lack.

So now that you know why Craig’s List is a great site to meet women on, let’s talk about how you can go about using Craig’s List to find dates.

Step 1: Create a new email address

An important step you want to be sure to do before using Craig’s List to find a girl is to set up a secondary email address. This is to prevent you from getting spammed from immoral marketers who harvest people’s email address from Craig’s List to spam them. Because of this, it’s a smart idea to have a “disposable” email address that you use just for Craig’s List.

Step 2: Create an account on Craig’s List

Creating an account is quick, easy, and you don’t have to pay for it. Just use the new email account you created to sign up. This will let you repost your ads very easily, which you’ll want to do later on.

Step 3: Write An Ad

Now, you’ll want to write an ad to post on Craig’s List, illustrating what type of girl you’re in the market for.

Step 4: Create Up To 5-10 Ad Variations

Craig’s List has strict guidelines on posting duplicate content. They don’t want their site spammed by ads, so you’ll want to re-write your ad at least 5-10 times, so you are able to post it often.

Step 5: Post Your Ads

Once you have all your ad variations ready to go, post your ad. You’re going to want to post your ad at least twice a day, once around noon, and once around 5 or 6 o’clock. This will increase the likelihood of your ad being seen.

Step 6: Repost Your Ads

Every 3 days, you’ll be allowed to repost the same ad you posted before. Just log into your account and look at all your posts, then select the ones you’d like to repost.

Step 7: Keep Reposting Your Ad

You will want to repost your ad often, since this is the key to success with having women on Craig’s List respond to you.

Step 8: Browse Ads From Women

In addition to posting an ad for yourself, you’ll want to look through ads that girls have posted on Craig’s List as well.

Step 9: Email Women you’re Interested In

Once you find an ad you’re interested in, be sure to email her. Use the Craig’s List email address you created though, don’t use your personal email.

Now that you understand the general over-all process of meeting women on the Craig’s List website, let’s talk about two other very important factors – where to post your ad, and how to craft a great ad that will get you responses.

First off, you have two choices of categories to post in on Craig’s List. The first is “Men Seeking Women,” and the next is “Causal Encounters.”

The “Men Seeking Women” section is where women browse looking for guys that seem interesting. This is a section for finding dates. The “Casual Encounters” section is for more physical interactions, such as casual sex, one night stands, etc.

Figure out which section is more for you, and post there. You can of course post in both sections if you like, but I’ve found it’s best to focus your efforts on one section only.

Now let’s talk about crafting a winning ad.

The biggest, and most important step, is writing a great headline. Your headline is the primary factor in getting people to read the rest of your ad. The secret here is to display some type of benefit in the headline that will entice women to check you out.

For instance, a headline like “Looking For A Great Girl I Can Wine, Dine, And Romance” showcases a big benefit to the girl. Every girl likes to be romanced, so why shouldn’t they check out your ad?

Another fantastic tip for increasing response to your ad is to include a picture. Ads with pictures will get clicked on a great deal more than ads without pictures. Don’t worry if you’re wary about putting a picture of yourself on Craig’s List. It works just as well to find a generic picture of a romantic restaurant or something like that to include in your ad. Any picture will do, the purpose here is to make sure Craig’s List can advertise your ad has an image in it in the results listing.

The best ads are always funny in some way, so be sure to use humor in your ad when appropriate. Writing with a fun and funny attitude will make your ad stand out from the crowd and get you more responses. It’s always a good idea to communicate a fun and interesting personality to girls, especially online.

Talk about yourself in the ad. Don’t just give details like hair color, body size, height, etc. Also include things you’re passionate about, things you like doing, and your idea of what a great date will be.

Then, talk about the type of girl you’re looking for. Be specific! The more specific you are, the more chance you have of getting a girl you like!

Always be sure to request that girls who respond to your ad include a picture of themselves in an email, or at the very least a link to a MySpace or Facebook page so you can see what she looks like. Don’t simply assume girls will send a picture automatically. Let them know you’re happy to share a picture of you in return. Most girls will respond well to this. If a girl emails you asking for a picture, give her one of you, but always ask for one in return.

Longer ads actually tend to do better than shorter ones. Long ads stand out, and girls will take time to read the ad if its interesting. So don’t worry if your ad seems long.

Use proper grammar, punctuation, spelling, and spacing. The nicer your ad looks, the easier it is to read, and the more responses it will get!

When you combine regular ad posting with emailing women directly on Craig’s List, you’ll start to see lots of women contacting you.

But just a few words of warning…

Warning 1: There are lots of SPAMMERS posing as women and posting fake personal ads on Craig’s List. They do this as a way of harvesting email addresses to spam to. If you get responses with generic emails saying things like “hey, thanks for emailing me,” be wary, since it’s typically some spammer trying to get you to sign up for some type of pay site.

Warning 2: Women can be suspicious of guys online, so always be up-front and honest with them. Women have safety issues most guys don’t, so do what it takes to make a woman feel good about contacting you.

Warning 3: Don’t email back and forth too much. Be sure to try to get the girl’s number so you can call or text her as soon as you can. Too much emailing might actually keep you from actually getting together, and have you stuck as an “online fantasy.”

Warning 4: There are unstable women on Craig’s List, so practice caution if you’re going to meet them and get together at a neutral place, like a coffee shop. Never have them come over to your place directly. This is because you want to be sure to screen them first to see if they’re stable and sane before inviting them into your home.

Warning 5: Don’t quit too soon or give up! Too many men simply post one ad on Craig’s List and then stop. If you want to be successful meeting women on Craig’s List, you have to post as often as you can, and keep emailing women until you find one you like.

When you follow all these tips, you’ll get amazing success with meeting women on Craig’s List.

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Author: Joseph Matthews

One of the hardest things for a shy guy to do is to meet a woman he likes.

In fact, this is no small feat for most guys, but even more so for the guy who considers himself to be “shy.”

I’d even argue that shy guys tend to get the short-end-of-the-stick, so to speak, when it comes to women and relationships in general!

The reason for this is that if a girl is shy, she can still have guys coming up and approaching her, and eventually find a boyfriend. However, your average shy guy isn’t going to get women coming his way anytime soon.

It’s the sad reality of men is that we are the ones destined to be the pursuers. Women won’t approach us, we have to be the ones to walk up to THEM and do all the work.

If we don’t approach, we don’t get the girl.

Sucks, right?

And sadly – shy guys just don’t approach women! And because of this, they tend to end up alone and desperate most of the time.

Well, don’t worry too much. Approaching women isn’t as hard as you might think – ESPECIALLY if you’re dealing with shyness. You just need to follow a few simple tips, and before you know it, you’ll be dealing with more women than you can handle.

1. Memorize A Few Good Pick Up Lines

One of the biggest reasons why shy guys don’t approach a woman is because their brain FREEZES and they can’t think of anything to say.

Coming up with something cool to say off the top of your head is rarely easy unless you have that gift. Having a good pickup line is a great idea just for this situation. If it’s good and you know it will work, then don’t hesitate.

Pick up lines are often subject to ridicule, due to the bad ones out there. I’m sure you’ve heard plenty of them, and wonder if they ever work.

Terrible. Just terrible.

A good pick up line is simply something that engages a girl and gets her TALKING to you. Once you get a conversation going, you can take it pretty much anywhere you want.

Using a line like “Hey, in your opinion, would you ever want to date a guy who spends three hours a day in the gym?” is much more effective than any of the bad pick up lines you hear.

It may seem like a random question, but you’re asking her about a genuine opinion she might have, and of course, this conversation can lead to talking about past relationships, guys she’s dated, and what she finds attractive in guys (all good information to know, right?).

A good pickup line doesn’t have to wow the girl. It just needs to get her talking. But try and stay away from chatting about World Of Warcraft and your Star Trek DVD Box Set. Save that convo for the third date.

2. Utilize The Power Of Negative Visualization

A big reason shy guys balk at meeting a girl is because they are too “intimidated” by her beauty. It makes them nervous or scared to approach.

That’s why I recommend you use the power of “negative” visualization to make that hot chick seem less desirable!

Imagine her with really hairy legs, a moustache, a huge boil on her nose, and really bad body odor.

Not so appealing anymore, right?

When a shy guy is able to turn his attraction level for a woman down a few notches, it helps him to find the courage to approach her, because suddenly, she’s not so intimidating anymore.

It will help you relax, considerably. And who knows, you might just have some fun.

Don’t forget to read part 2!

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