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Body language is non-verbal communication, but is used along with verbal communication. It expresses our emotions, conveys our attitudes, demonstrates our personality traits and supports out verbal communications. Everyone uses this whenever we communicate with each other.

In any culture there are different non-verbal behaviors which are used, such as the thumbs up to indicate “way to go” or “good job”. And, you will find that the six primary emotions of happiness, surprise, sadness, fear, anger, and disgust will be common throughout all of the different cultures. These six come from our own instincts and cannot be taught to us, because they naturally appear when we communicate with others. When having a conversation other individuals you will have an expression that will come from your subconscious. Because it comes from your subconscious, others will be able to tell a great deal about you.

Fear is a natural human emotion and serves a purpose related to our safety and security. But let us imagine a person who has witnessed a serious auto mobile accident, but rather than running to the aid of the injured; they run franticly in the opposite direction. This frantic running away is body expression that certainly infers some kind of fear. Specifically what that fears might be we cannot know without talking to the person. But it is obvious that the fear has nothing to do with immediate safety. Through this example you should be able to see how we can read anothers personality through the lens of his body language.

There is one experiment that you could try at home – see how much information people give you about themselves through their body communication. When you are talking with someone, you should observe their body language as they talk. After a couple of minute’s observation, close your eyes and continually listen to them. You will not be able to see their hands moving, facial expressions, or other bodily movements. You will, however, notice how much information is not available to you because your eyes are closed. This process becomes difficult to read and understand without actually seeing the person’s body expression accompanying them speaking.

One concrete way to learn how to read someone’s body language is to observe them and get to know how they act. You should remember that all individuals have six common types of instinctual body language. But, these do vary in degree of expression. There are non-verbal communications which will also be common among certain cultures, societies and families. Due to this, two different people can have very similar behaviors which will be expressed through similar types of body language. If you know your own body language, then you will find it easier to read similar ones in others, and therefore will provide you with an insight into another people’s personalities.

As you progress and continue to learn your own body language and how it relates to the behaviors of your sub consciousness, you will need to be conscious of the fact that you don’t overdo this. After some time, you will recognise the only goal will be to match your thoughts with your own body language. In this process, you are not concerned about judging yourself, but want to learn how to read your own body language so that you will later be able to read the body language of others. After, you will be able to use the information you have gained for your own understanding.

Once you recognize some of your own body language movements and what they mean, you will be able to begin to read other people with more accuracy. When you are having a conversation with someone, you will be able to identify different things such as mixed messages. These mixed messages will be identified when an individual says one thing, yet their body communications something else.

A good example is when someone lies to you. They tell you, “I didn’t do it!”, but the tone of voice, the looking away, and the slight nervousness lets you know that something is not quite right in what they are telling you. This conflict between verbal language and body language could signal deception. Mixed messages are most certainly related to insincerity and point to that person as having something to hide.

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